NH FAMILY COURT

REMEMBER YOUR NOT ALONE. Please contact your state house representative or THE CENTER FOR REDRESS OF GRIEVANCES in NH. And watch SPEAK UP NH, who shows one NH Family Court case after another like Jamie Doherty's http://youtu.be/CIOXB21sBMY. You too can tell the public your experience with NH's Family Judicial Branch. NH's very own Family Court Records are proving that NH's Judicial Branch fully participates and supports Kidnapping and Domestic Violence; Real Estate Fraud, Mortgage Fraud, and Property Deed Fraud; Perjury, Falsifying Documents and Non Existing Issues, and above all, Obstruction of all Justice. Case file after case file showing all the evidence in multiple Family Court Records, that are filling the NH County Court Clerk Records Offices daily throughout the whole state! People are being visited by the FBI and THREATENED simply over a NH divorce case. You truly know the truth struck a nerve then. So become a part of the solution and bring them your court case file with your evidence of your experience with NH Family Court. Fear and Silence only continues to fuel what is already a corrupted government branch harming all those who pay their salaries. You are not alone. Numbers can truly speak louder than words!

Dec 25, 2018

TRUE CONFESSIONS OF AN ADULTERER

Updated December 27, 2018
                         January 1, 2019
James Ferraro PH.D., MBA - I am an adulterer who happens to be a licensed clinician and willing to tell you the truth about why I was unfaithful to my wife.

I could speak from decades of experience about love and relationship but that would lack integrity. Instead, I choose to speak from a pure, albeit difficult place in hopes that it will offer something more meaningful - the truth about why many men, and this one, have affairs. I will speak to you from the shame of failing miserably at marriage through my choice to have sex with someone other than my wife, not for the purpose of being an exhibitionist, but rather to change the conversation about betrayal and why it happens.

New York Governor, Elliot Spitzer, was just stepping to the podium as we sat down in front of the TV and listened as he announced his resignation. After acknowledging his assignations with a high dollar escort, he expressed regret for his poor judgment, and apologized to his family and constituents. It was scripted and predictable leaving many questions and saying nothing to help people understand.

Listening to his confession was like picking a scab and I experienced my own shame all over again so I shut it off in an act of empty defiance. I tried to focus on something else but I couldn't. Try as I might I couldn't get the picture of Tilda Spitzer out of my mind. When he made his announcement, she had been standing to one side, a little behind him, her face clearly visible and it was full of pain. It was a look I knew well. I had seen the same look in Julie's eyes - a combination of disbelief and betrayal.

Getting to my feet I began to pace the room, agitation overcoming my exhaustion. I couldn't help thinking that infidelity was pandemic and the fallout was toxic.
"Someone has got to tell the truth about infidelity," I muttered under my breath, as my agitated pacing took me from one end of the room to the other. Thinking out loud I continued, "It has to be someone who can speak from experience, someone who will tell the absolute truth no matter the consequences."

Turning on my heel, I caught sight of my reflection in the mirror and froze. Staring at the man who looked back at me, I had an epiphany. In that moment I realized that if someone was going to tell the truth about adultery it would have to be me. My life experiences, as well as my training, had uniquely prepared me. "Damn it!" I exclaimed as my new reality settled in. I am that man.

While I never aspired in grad school to be the poster child for infidelity, life never turns out as it should but as it does. If it helps one couple or spares a single child the agony of an unnecessary divorce it's worth it. I chose to have an affair that was devastating to my wife and family, resulted in a divorce, landed me in a jail cell, damaged many important relationships and almost cost me my life. That's the bad part. I also chose to grow up, take responsibility for the brokenness that propelled me to the choices I made.

As I suspect is true with many affairs, the anatomy of mine was found in those parts of me that I had for many years denied, refused to take responsibility for, or run from being honest about. In lying to myself and others about those parts, I severed them from my life. Once dissociated, they remained unknown to me, leaving me in a dangerous and intolerable state in a world replete with opportunity for escape and threats to deep intimacy.

Ironically, my ignorance about my own brokenness rendered any smarts I acquired in getting a PhD in clinical psychology useless. What is invisible to us often controls us. My broken condition allowed me to fail in taking responsibility for those severed parts-something that true love requires of us all.

If you've asked yourself, "How could he do this?" Here I will attempt to offer you an answer. I do so, not as an excuse to justify my actions, but rather to provide insight into how someone who took his marriage vows seriously and intended to live by his values could fail everyone he loved so profoundly.

Following are the six reasons I chose to have an affair:

1. I believed that the rules didn't apply to me.

2. I confused significance and self-worth with certainty and success.

3. I made up a story that my wife was the cause of my unhappiness and disappointment in our marriage.

4. I was an accomplished liar.

5. I confused sexual attraction and fantasy for love.

6. I didn't take responsibility for my mental health.


CNBC - Sheila Hageman, 43, a married writer and mother of three from Stratford, Connecticut, says years of multiple love affairs destroyed her first marriage. 

"As a woman, I didn't have to put any money out, but still, the cost to me was incalculable," she recalled. "All the lying, the guilt, knowing I hurt someone I really loved—and still do love—I have to live with that the rest of my life." 

Thomas Galiano, a social worker and self-help author who now counsels couples on infidelity, said he was able to repair his marriage after a five-year affair but that he and his wife still bear residual emotional scars.

"You destroy the trust in your marriage," said Gagliano.

"Your children learn to keep secrets. They learn a distorted and warped idea of intimacy. At some level, the shame will always eat away at you."

According to a survey, the average affair lasts six months and costs $444 a month, or $2,664 in total. The survey, conducted by a U.K. retail company researching American spending habits, broke down the expenses incurred in a typical fling, such as hotel bills ($123), dinner and drinks ($162), gifts ($54), and date activities (movie tickets, $69, and "other," $36.)

But these estimates may only be the tip of the iceberg. Experts say the cost of an affair is way higher—in fact, the sky's the limit.
           

"Secret cell phones, airline tickets, secret credit cards, hotel rooms—the costs can be astronomical," said Ramani Durvasula, 48, a licensed clinical psychologist. "I know a woman and her lover who would book a hotel room to the tune of $2,500 a week. And keeping a mistress in an apartment—that can run in the hundreds of thousands."
Durvasula believes smartphones and social media have helped contribute to what she says is a shocking rise in marital infidelity.

"We've created the ultimate cheating tools," she said. "Social media is an accelerant. It's like giving children matches to play with. When you think about it, it's downright quaint these days to imagine a mistress calling a man's home and hanging up when his wife answers. Right? Now people can literally cheat on their spouses while lying right next to them in bed." 


Durvasula says changes in the rhythm of a relationship—like a spouse who suddenly seems absent or detached, or even overly involved—can be a clue that one partner is straying.
      
"It's not that hard to tell," she insists. "You don't have to be freakin' Magnum PI."
    

"The betrayal of trust is the largest cost of having an affair," maintains Durvasula. "The guilt, the loss of self-esteem, the loss of self-worth—good luck putting dollars and cents on that."

Many psychologist have been explaining for years that there is no literal blame that can be placed other than on the adulterers themselves for choosing to commit adultery before filing for a divorce.  Yet governments like New Hampshire, insist on only making family laws excusing all forms of adultery by claiming that all and any faults made by an adulterer's spouse is the cause and equivalent to committing adultery itself, according to court records.  

If unhappy in a marriage, there  are simply no hypocritical "main causes" in place to justify anyone who commits adultery before filing for a divorce, other than the adultery itself. 

Once adultery occurs in a marriage, all bets are off the table and it becomes a non equivalent divorce that is the "main cause" that becomes the only final truth that caused the divorce.  The idea of still going through past issues in the marriage before a divorce is filed with the courts when any adultery occurs, should clearly become obsolete. People need to take responsibility and have accountability, and that includes the government.

Trying to claim adultery is equivalent to justified  "Irreconcilable Differences" is literally claiming that the taking of a life, truly is of no great concern to the government and/or the average American family court. 

NH legalized adultery in 2o15 because NH judges are still illegally opposing to follow any laws produced by legislative construction that was voted and past by NH legislators, then NH senators, and then even signed off and approved by a NH governor; and will only continue to still do so.

A clear example was the NH Supreme Court ruling in the 2003 Adultery case, Blanchflower v Blanchflower.  This case simply but very clearly proved the wife committed adultery with a women.  NH had an adultery law clearly defined by legislative construction. that was in place at the time that this case was heard.  It was a law even re-voted on to still re-pass into law for over 200 years.  The NH adultery law that once was continually acceptable on multiple accounts for over 2 centuries, clearly simply expressed a "plain and ordinary meaning."

NH Adultery Law until 2015 -- “ A person is guilty of a class B misdemeanor if, being a married person, he engages in sexual intercourse with another not his spouse or, being unmarried, engages in sexual intercourse with another known by him to be married.”  RSA 645:3 (1996).

A., The "definition of adultery was contained in that statute" by using one very clear important WORD.  It defined the law in plain English by stating adultery was, "Engages in sexual intercourse with another", and not with the opposite gender.  The word "Another" is clearly defined in the English dictionary (had they even bothered to  look that word up too) as, "someone or something different and in addition to." 


B. Thereforeany homosexual or even an emotional affair were both simply clearly defined in the NH adultery law, as simply "someone or something different that is in addition to" sexual intercourse at the time the law was in effect.  Otherwise why wouldn't they simply have stated, "only with the opposite gender/sex", if that was the only original true intent of the law.


C. Therefore, the legislative construction of a NH Adultery law once thoroughly and very clearly did constituted homosexual affairs as adultery, because the terms were literally "defined within the meaning of the law."  It also was very thoroughly and clearly, "expressed in the words of a statue considered as a whole", had the NH Supreme Court even bothered to look up, each and every word, that is used to construct each and every law for it's final definition, when they only refer to a Webster Dictionary instead of the actual  state law, for a court ruling in the first place.  This in itself speaks volumes of divided government branches just within the same state, let alone throughout the entire country. 

However, according to the NH Supreme Court in the case of Blanchflower v Blanchflower:

The NH Supreme Court is very openly hypocritical when thoroughly contradicting laws by stating, "This court is the final arbiter of the intent of the legislature as expressed in the words of a statute considered as a whole. Wegner v. Prudential Prop. & Cas. Ins. Co., 148 N.H. 107, 108, 803 A.2d 598 (2002) (quotation omitted).We first look to the language of the statute itself and, where terms are not defined therein, we ascribe to them their plain and ordinary meanings.”  Id.

This case truly shows how illiterate their illegal and false interpretation of  all laws  truly are:

"The plain and ordinary meaning of adultery is “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband.”   Webster's Third New International Dictionary 30 (unabridged ed.1961).Although the definition does not specifically state that the “someone” with whom one commits adultery must be of the opposite gender, it does require sexual intercourse."  Said the NH Supreme Court.


1. Stating both that adultery requires intercourse is clearly false according to the actual legislative construction used "in the words of a statue considered as a whole" defining the NH Adultery law that was in place at the time, already explained above.


"The plain and ordinary meaning of sexual intercourse is “sexual connection esp. between humans:  COITUS, COPULATION.”   Webster's Third New International Dictionary 2082.   Coitus is defined to require “insertion of the penis in the vagina[ ],” Webster's Third New International Dictionary 441, which clearly can only take place between persons of the opposite gender" , said the NH Supreme Court


2. Again both the case and the law both already pertain to a homosexual affair and had nothing to do with a heterosexual affair, “sexual connection esp. between humans:  COITUS, COPULATION.”


"We also note that “[a] law means what it meant to its framers and its mere repassage does not alter that meaning.”Appeal of Naswa Motor Inn, 144 N.H. 89, 91, 738 A.2d 349 (1999) (quotation omitted).   The statutory compilation in which the provision now codified as RSA 458:7 first appeared is the Revised Statutes of 1842.   See RS 148:3  (1842).   No definition of adultery was contained in that statute(FALSE) See id.Our cases from that approximate time period, however, support the inference that adultery meant intercourse. (FALSE)See Adams v. Adams, 20 N.H. 299, 301 (1850);  Burns v. Burns, 68 N.H. 33, 34, 44 A. 76 (1894)." , said the NH Supreme Court.


3. Stating "Our cases from that approximate time period, however, support the inference that adultery meant intercourse;" (IS FASLE) again, simply makes no sense and contradicts "the intent of the legislature as expressed in the words of a statute considered as a whole."  That was already very clearly defined for them even through the Webster Dictionary that they constantly referred to instead of the actual state law.


4. Again, When actually attempting "to note that [a] law means what it meant to its framers and its mere repassage does not alter that meaning” , then SHOULD THEY NOT by any means be altering any part of it's meaning?  Especially if the courts are the true " final arbiter of the intent of the legislature as expressed in the words of a statute considered as a whole”, while clearly hypocritically only actually disagreeing.


Therefore, According to the NH courts, who apparently only have the illegal final say on law, having sexual intercourse with others, just simply never was any real cause to divorce your spouse in NH.  Thus, that is until the so-called now impeccable proof of the adultery committed also now becomes impeccable proof that it is the actual unquestionable "main cause", that is also beyond the impeccable proof of any reasonable doubt, that it actually truly is the supporting evidence of the impeccable proof of the actual adultery committed. S0 just try and say that 3 times fast and your IQ will now be  as low with the equivalency of all NH judges' train of thought.


Here is another example of a nightmare on Elm Street performed by NH's judicial branch of government that is now recklessly enforced daily since 2010.  The NH Supreme Court designed a family court Rule 1.25A that claims that all debts, medical coverages and life insurance coverages, retirements, pensions, 401Ks, savings and checking accounts, held both jointly and separately, are now all required to be submitted to the court within 45 days of filing with the NH family court.  BUT, and yes people, the NH judges always have to have a major HPYPOCRITICAL BUT to even excuse their own actual rules, like stating, that it is also ONLY IF A NH JUDGE bothers to even request this specific evidence and not all the evidence they actually listed in the first. 

THEN, AND YES THERES EVEN MORE TO RULE 1.25A, they went further on to clarify in this rule just how thorough the actual evidence has to truly be.  By clarifying that the actual evidences can be hidden from view before submitting it to the court by stating that, "2.  The parties may redact all but the last four (4) digits of any account numbers and social security numbers that appear on any statements or documents."  


Now not only does this sentence defeat the entire purpose of all and any entire purpose of having evidence to begin with, it now most certainly breaks even more than just one NH legislative constructed state law, along with the United States Codes for the entire country.  You just have to wonder how long does it actually really take for them to actually come up with so much illegal BS, let alone actually get away with enforcing it.





FACT: NH Title LXII - CRIMINAL CODE
Chapter 641 - FALSIFICATION IN OFFICIAL MATTERS
Section 641:7 - Tampering With Public Records or Information.


Universal Citation: NH Rev Stat § 641:7 (2015)



   
641:7 Tampering With Public Records or Information. – A person is guilty of a misdemeanor if he:
    I. Knowingly makes a false entry in or false alteration of any thing belonging to, received, or kept by the government for information or record, or required by law to be kept for information of the government; or
    II. Presents or uses any thing knowing it to be false, and with a purpose that it be taken as a genuine part of information or records referred to in paragraph I; or
    III. Purposely and unlawfully destroys, conceals, removes or otherwise impairs the verity or availability of any such thing.

Source. 1971, 518:1, eff. Nov. 1, 1973.

FACT: NH Title LXII - CRIMINAL CODE
Chapter 638 - FRAUD
Section 638:2 - Fraudulent Handling of Recordable Writings.


Universal Citation: NH Rev Stat § 638:2 (2015)



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8:2 Fraudulent Handling of Recordable Writings. – A person is guilty of a class B felony if, with a purpose to deceive or injure anyone, he falsifies, destroys, removes or conceals any will, deed, mortgage, security instrument or other writing for which the law provides public recording.
Source. 1971, 518:1, eff. Nov. 1, 1973.


FACT: 18 U.S.C. § 1505 - U.S. Code - Unannotated Title 18. Crimes and Criminal Procedure § 1505. Obstruction of proceedings before departments, agencies, and committees